selfmockery

Self-mockery is a form of humor in which a person makes jokes at their own expense, often by highlighting personal flaws, mistakes, or idiosyncrasies. It relies on the disparity between a serious self-image and humorous self-critique, and it is commonly used to appear relatable, self-aware, or unpretentious. In psychological literature, self-mockery is often discussed as a facet of self-defeating humor, a broader category within the humor styles framework that also includes affiliative and self-enhancing forms.

Self-mockery serves several social and psychological functions. It can defuse tension, lower others’ defenses, and invite solidarity by signaling humility. It may also preempt criticism by revealing awareness of one’s own shortcomings. In performance and commentary, self-mockery can provide vulnerability without evoking threat, increasing perceived authenticity and likability.

Common techniques include self-deprecating jokes about personal failures, humorous exaggeration of traits, and self-parody. The aim is to invite laughter while maintaining control of the narrative, rather than simply wallowing in misery.

Effects and limitations: When used judiciously, self-mockery can enhance rapport, resilience, and credibility. Excessive or harsh self-criticism, however, may undermine self-esteem, backfire if misread as insecurity, and risk reinforcing negative stereotypes about the speaker or a group with which the speaker identifies.

Cultural and contextual factors influence how self-mockery is received. Some cultures prize modesty and may tolerate or encourage self-mockery, while others discourage public self-insult or equate it with weak confidence. In media and online spaces, self-mockery can be a strategic tool but may invite ridicule or misinterpretation.