approvalseeking

Approval-seeking, or approvalseeking, is the tendency to seek validation, praise, or acceptance from others. It involves aligning beliefs, opinions, or behaviors with perceived expectations, seeking reassurance, or pursuing positive feedback rather than acting on personal preferences. While common in many social contexts, the degree of approval-seeking varies and can be adaptive in promoting social harmony or maladaptive when it suppresses autonomy and authentic expression.

Causes and manifestations include insecure attachment, especially anxious attachment, lower self-esteem, and social anxiety. Personality and cultural factors also play a role; some individuals are more inclined to impression management, while collectivist norms may value harmony and conformity. Behaviors include self-censorship, frequent reassurance-seeking, conformity to opinions, and online posting aimed at garnering likes or approval.

Impacts and responses: moderate approval-seeking can facilitate cooperation and relationships, but chronic or excessive approval-seeking is linked to reduced well-being, indecision, burnout, and dependent or people-pleasing patterns. Researchers study approval-seeking as a facet of social motivation and personality, using various scales. Management approaches include building self-efficacy, assertiveness training, cognitive-behavioral strategies, mindfulness, and reducing excessive reliance on external validation, both offline and online.