overgivers

Overgivers are individuals who consistently go above and beyond what is expected of them, often at the expense of their own well-being or needs. This behavior can manifest in various aspects of life, including work, relationships, and social interactions. An overgiver may find it difficult to say no to requests, volunteer for excessive tasks, or constantly seek to please others.

The roots of overgiving can stem from a variety of psychological factors. Some overgivers may have a deep-seated fear of rejection or abandonment, believing that their value is tied to their helpfulness. Others might struggle with low self-esteem, seeking external validation through their acts of service. In some cases, it can be a learned behavior from childhood experiences where excessive compliance was rewarded.

While overgiving can be perceived as positive by others, it can lead to significant negative consequences for the individual. Burnout, resentment, and a feeling of being taken advantage of are common. Over time, it can strain relationships as the overgiver's unmet needs and suppressed feelings build up. It can also hinder personal growth by preventing them from pursuing their own goals or asserting their boundaries. Recognizing and addressing overgiving behavior often involves developing assertiveness skills, setting healthy boundaries, and working on self-worth independent of others' approval. Therapy can be beneficial in exploring the underlying causes and developing more balanced interpersonal dynamics.