okiai

Okiai (often romanized as omiai; Japanese: お見合い) is a traditional Japanese practice of a formal introduction between two people who may marry. The term combines elements meaning to see and to meet; in English it is usually translated as an arranged meeting or matrimonial introduction.

Historically, the process involved families and a professional intermediary known as nakōdo (仲人) who arranged introductions and checked backgrounds. In modern practice, omiai is conducted by family members, professional matchmakers, dating agencies, or online platforms, with participation often optional and voluntary.

The typical sequence starts with an intermediary presenting profiles that include education, occupation, income, family background, and personal preferences. A formal meeting—often brief and conducted in a controlled setting—allows both parties to assess compatibility. If mutual interest exists, they may arrange additional meetings, begin dating, or move toward engagement and marriage.

In contemporary Japan, omiai remains a recognized option among diverse approaches to forming a life partnership. Its popularity has declined relative to spontaneous dating, but it persists, especially among people who value efficiency, privacy, or family involvement. The rise of online omiai services has further modernized the practice while retaining its traditional framing.

The term is commonly spelled omiai, but variations such as okiai appear in some transliterations.