demiseksuality

Demisexuality is a sexual orientation in which sexual attraction typically develops only after forming a strong emotional bond with another person. Outside of that bond, sexual attraction is absent or significantly muted. Demisexuality is commonly described as part of the asexual spectrum.

The term uses the prefix demi-, meaning partial or half. It emerged in online discussions in the 2000s and was popularized within asexual and LGBTQ+ communities, including organizations such as AVEN, which recognize demisexuality as a valid orientation.

Demisexuality is distinct from demiromanticism, which describes a romantic attraction that develops only after forming an emotional bond. A demisexual person may have any romantic orientation (straight, gay, bisexual, pansexual, etc.), and not all people on the asexual spectrum identify as demisexual.

Experiences vary. Some people require a deep personal connection before sexual attraction arises; for others, a prolonged bond, trust, or emotional safety may be necessary. Demisexuality does not prescribe behavior; consent and personal desire remain central.

Misconceptions are common: demisexuality is not simply being shy, prudish, or non-sexual, and it is not a moral position or a choice. Prevalence data are limited, and estimates differ across studies and communities, with many individuals on the asexual spectrum identifying as demisexual.