Sulking

Sulking refers to a mood or behavior in which a person expresses silent resentment and withdrawal in response to a perceived grievance, disappointment, or slight. It often involves reduced communication, passive resistance, and pouting.

Sulking can arise from conflicts, unmet expectations, or feelings of invalidation. In children, it may be a learned or reinforced response that signals displeasure without overt confrontation; in adults, it can function as a defensive stance to avoid immediate confrontation or to signal dissatisfaction. It is generally considered a temporary coping pattern rather than a lasting mental health condition, though it can be symptomatic of broader issues such as mood dysregulation if persistent.

Expression and social effects: Sulking may appear through silence, avoiding eye contact, withdrawal from conversations, or retreat to a private space. In relationships, it can hinder communication, create misunderstandings, or prolong conflicts; it can be interpreted as passive aggression by others and may erode trust if frequent.

Duration and boundaries: The behavior typically lasts from a few hours to a few days, depending on the trigger and whether the situation is addressed. If the underlying issues remain unresolved, recurring sulking can contribute to ongoing tension.

Coping and management: Helpful approaches for others include inviting open dialogue without pressuring, acknowledging feelings, and clarifying needs. The sulker may practice emotional regulation, take a pause before reacting, or express concerns more directly. If sulking recurs frequently or interferes with functioning, professional advice or counseling may be considered.