Gottmanmódszer

Gottmanmódszer refers to a set of research-based methods for improving relationships, primarily romantic partnerships, developed by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman. Their work is rooted in decades of observation and analysis of thousands of couples in their Love Lab. The core of the Gottmanmódszer lies in identifying behaviors and patterns that predict relationship success or failure.

A central concept is the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" – criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling – which are seen as highly destructive to relationships. Conversely, the Gottmanmódszer emphasizes building a strong friendship, managing conflict constructively, and supporting each other's dreams and life goals. Techniques often involve communication exercises, conflict resolution strategies, and exercises to foster fondness and admiration.

The approach is not about eliminating conflict entirely, but rather learning to navigate disagreements in a healthy way. It focuses on understanding each partner's perspective, making repairs when arguments escalate, and building a shared life with meaning and connection. The Gottmanmódszer is applied in couples therapy and through various workshops and resources aimed at helping couples strengthen their bond and create lasting relationships.