Crushes

A crush is a brief romantic attraction to another person, often present during adolescence but not limited to youth. It tends to be intense, focused on certain attributes (appearance, personality, or shared interests), and is usually based on relatively little knowledge about the other person.

Crushes are influenced by cognitive bias and neurochemistry; dopamine and norepinephrine can heighten energy and preoccupation. People may idealize the object of their crush, ignoring flaws.

Common signs include daydreaming, wanting to spend time near the person, imagining scenarios, checking social media, blushing, or feeling nervous around them.

Crushes differ from long-term love; crushes are more about infatuation and surface impressions, while love involves deeper knowledge, compatibility, and commitment.

Managing a crush involves respect and appropriate boundaries. If you choose to express interest, do so in a non-coercive, considerate way and be prepared for any outcome. If not reciprocated, give space, maintain boundaries, and continue respectful behavior. Talking with friends can help, but avoid pressuring the other person.

Cultural and social contexts influence how crushes are perceived; they occur across ages, genders, and sexual orientations. In some cultures, public displays of affection or expressions of interest may be more or less accepted.

Potential impacts include positive motivation and social learning, as well as anxiety or distraction if the feelings are unreciprocated. Maintaining realistic expectations and healthy coping strategies can reduce distress.