sulk

Sulk is a verb meaning to be silent and morose as a result of disappointment, hurt, or a perceived slight. It can also be used as a noun to refer to a period or instance of such mood, as in “a sulk.” In common usage, a person who sulks withdraws from others and expresses discontent through quiet withdrawal rather than direct complaint.

The term dates from the early 17th century, with an origin that is not entirely clear. It has remained primarily informal and is widely understood in everyday speech.

Causes and social function: A sulk often arises from interpersonal conflict, disappointment, or hurt feelings. It can serve as an indirect way to communicate grievance or to seek attention or concessions. Prolonged sulking can hinder communication, escalate tension, and erode trust in relationships if not addressed.

Behavioral manifestations: Nonverbal cues associated with sulking include silence, avoided eye contact, folded arms, slouched posture, and reduced social interaction. The mood is typically temporary but may become persistent if the underlying issue remains unresolved.

Context and culture: Sulking appears as a common motif in literature and media as a simple reaction to disagreement. It is discussed across age groups, though it is more frequently associated with children and adolescents. Effective handling often involves acknowledging the hurt, encouraging direct expression of needs, and setting boundaries on constructive ways to address grievances.

See also: pouting, silent treatment, mood.