frenemy

A frenemy is a person with whom one is friendly despite a fundamental rivalry or dislike. The term is a portmanteau of "friend" and "enemy." This type of relationship is characterized by a complex mix of genuine affection and underlying animosity or competition.

Frenemies often share a history, possibly from childhood, school, or work, that has fostered both camaraderie and conflict. They might enjoy each other's company and confide in one another, yet simultaneously harbor jealousy, resentment, or a desire to outperform the other. The dynamic can be subtle, with the negative feelings often masked by social niceties or a shared sense of obligation.

The motivations behind maintaining a frenemy relationship can vary. It might stem from convenience, a reluctance to sever ties with someone familiar, or a perverse form of enjoyment derived from the push-and-pull of the dynamic. Sometimes, frenemies are unaware of the full extent of their rival's true feelings, or they choose to ignore them for the perceived benefits of the association.

The line between a genuine friend with occasional disagreements and a frenemy can be blurred. Key indicators of a frenemy relationship include frequent backhanded compliments, subtle sabotage, gossip, and a general feeling of unease or competition that persists despite apparent friendliness. These relationships can be emotionally taxing and are often contrasted with healthier, more supportive friendships.