civilly

Civilly is an English adverb that describes acting with civility: polite, respectful, and restrained in manner. It is most often used to characterize behavior during disputes, negotiations, or everyday interactions where maintaining decorum matters.

Etymology and usage: The word is formed from the adjective civil, which derives from the Latin civilis “relating to citizens” via Old French civil. The suffix -ly turns civil into an adverb. In modern usage, civilly conveys more than simple politeness; it implies adherence to social norms of courtesy and self-control, even when opinions diverge. It is relatively formal and comparatively rare in casual speech.

Contexts and nuance: People may speak civilly to colleagues during a contentious meeting, or settle a dispute civilly through mediation. The term is also used in legal or journalistic writing to contrast conduct with aggression or rudeness, or to describe a demeanor rather than a specific action. For example, one might say, “They argued civilly,” or “They resolved the matter civilly.”

Related terms: See also civility, civil, civilian, and civil law. While civilly focuses on manner and conduct, these related terms cover broader concepts of citizenship, law, and social behavior.