IchBotschaften

IchBotschaften, often translated as "I-messages" or "I-statements," are a communication technique used to express feelings and needs without blaming or accusing the other person. This approach focuses on the speaker's internal experience and reactions to a situation. The core structure of an IchBotschaft typically involves three parts: a description of the behavior, the speaker's feelings about that behavior, and the impact or consequences of the behavior on the speaker. For example, instead of saying "You always interrupt me," an IchBotschaft would be "When I am speaking and get interrupted, I feel frustrated because I lose my train of thought."

The primary benefit of using IchBotschaften is to reduce defensiveness in the listener. By framing statements from the speaker's perspective, it avoids making the other person feel attacked or judged, which can open the door for more constructive dialogue. This technique encourages empathy and understanding, as the listener is more likely to consider the speaker's feelings and perspective when they are presented in a non-confrontational manner. It is a key component of assertive communication, aiming to express one's own needs and boundaries clearly and respectfully.

IchBotschaften are widely taught in fields such as psychology, counseling, and conflict resolution as a tool for improving interpersonal relationships. They are particularly useful in personal relationships, professional settings, and any situation where conflict or misunderstanding might arise. The goal is not to change the other person's behavior directly, but to communicate the speaker's experience in a way that encourages understanding and cooperation.