überidealisierung

Überidealisierung is a German term that translates to "over-idealization" in English. It describes the cognitive and emotional process of perceiving someone or something with an excessive degree of positive qualities, often to the exclusion of any flaws or negative aspects. This can manifest in relationships, where one partner might view the other as perfect and incapable of error, or in the evaluation of ideas, artistic works, or even abstract concepts.

This tendency can stem from various psychological factors, including a desire for security, a need for strong positive affirmation, or as a defense mechanism against perceived threats or disappointments. In interpersonal contexts, überidealisierung can lead to unrealistic expectations, making the idealized individual seem unattainable or even burdensome. When the inevitable discovery of flaws occurs, it can result in significant disillusionment and emotional distress for the person who over-idealized.

While a certain degree of positive regard is healthy in building connections and appreciating things, überidealisierung involves a distortion of reality. It prevents a balanced and nuanced understanding, hindering genuine intimacy and critical assessment. The term suggests a going beyond a realistic positive appraisal into a realm of unrealistic perfection. Recognizing this tendency is the first step toward developing a more grounded and realistic perspective.