noninsulting

Noninsulting is an adjective describing language, behavior, or approaches that avoid insults, humiliation, or hostile judgments toward others. It emphasizes respect for dignity and aims to promote constructive dialogue rather than harm.

In practice, noninsulting communication relies on focusing on issues rather than personal attacks, neutral or precise wording, and a calm tone. Examples include stating specific concerns ("The report omits data from our last quarter") rather than labeling a person ("You're clueless"). It also involves listening, asking questions, and using "I" statements to express impact.

Applications appear in education, workplace training, and online platforms as part of civil discourse and moderation policies. The approach is related to, but not identical with, nonviolent communication, respectful language, and constructive criticism. It recognizes cultural and situational differences in what is considered appropriate language and tone.

Criticisms note that too rigid a standard can hinder frank discussion or come across as policing language. Proponents argue that noninsulting practices reduce defensiveness and improve collaboration.

See also: civil discourse; respectful communication; nonviolent communication; constructive criticism.