arrhae

The arrhae, also known as the arras or arrab, is a tradition in many Spanish-speaking countries and Filipino weddings where the groom presents the bride with thirteen gold coins. These coins symbolize the groom's promise to provide for his future wife and his commitment to their marriage. The number thirteen is often associated with Christ and the twelve apostles, representing the union of the couple under God.

The origin of the arrhae tradition can be traced back to ancient Rome, where a similar custom involved the groom giving a coin to the bride as a symbol of wealth and prosperity. This practice was later adopted by the Spanish and spread to their colonies in the Americas and the Philippines during the colonial era.

In the Philippines, the arrhae ceremony is a significant part of the wedding ritual. The coins are typically placed in a decorative box or tray and are blessed by the officiant before being presented to the bride by the groom. The bride, in turn, accepts the arrhae as a token of her acceptance of the groom's vows.

While the arrhae tradition is deeply rooted in cultural and religious beliefs, its practice has evolved over time. In some modern weddings, couples may opt for a symbolic representation of the arrhae, such as a single coin or a certificate, to acknowledge the tradition while adapting it to their contemporary preferences. Regardless of the form it takes, the arrhae continues to be a cherished symbol of love, commitment, and the promise of a prosperous future for the married couple.