Overidealisation

Overidealisation is a cognitive bias and psychological phenomenon where an individual views another person, object, or concept with an excessively positive and unrealistic perspective. This often involves exaggerating their positive qualities while completely ignoring or downplaying any flaws or negative aspects. It is a form of idealisation that goes beyond reasonable admiration or appreciation, leading to a distorted perception of reality.

This process can occur in various contexts. In interpersonal relationships, overidealisation might manifest as seeing a romantic partner, friend, or even a public figure as perfect, without any faults. This can lead to disappointment and disillusionment when the reality of the person inevitably falls short of the imagined ideal. In the realm of ideas or ideologies, overidealisation can lead to an uncritical acceptance of a particular viewpoint, making it difficult to engage with opposing arguments or recognise potential drawbacks.

Overidealisation can stem from several psychological needs. It might serve as a defence mechanism, protecting the individual from uncomfortable truths or anxieties. It can also be a way to fill an emotional void or seek validation by attaching oneself to something perceived as exceptionally good. The intensity of overidealisation can vary, sometimes being a temporary phase and at other times a more persistent pattern of thinking that can impact judgment and decision-making. Recognizing overidealisation is the first step towards developing a more balanced and realistic perspective.