Overcontrolling

Overcontrolling refers to a pattern of behavior where an individual attempts to exert excessive influence or dictate the actions, decisions, or thoughts of others. This can manifest in various relationships, including those between parents and children, romantic partners, friends, or colleagues. The overcontrolling person often believes they know what is best for the other person and may act out of perceived concern, a desire for security, or a need for power.

Common behaviors associated with overcontrolling include constant monitoring of another person's activities, making decisions for them, discouraging independence, imposing strict rules, and expressing disapproval or punishment when their expectations are not met. This can lead to the person being controlled feeling suffocated, resentful, anxious, and diminished in their self-esteem and autonomy. They may struggle to develop their own problem-solving skills and decision-making abilities.

In parenting, overcontrolling can be termed "helicopter parenting," where parents are excessively involved in their child's life. In romantic relationships, it can be a sign of an unhealthy dynamic, potentially leading to emotional abuse. Addressing overcontrolling behavior often requires self-awareness from the overcontrolling individual and clear communication from the person being controlled, potentially with the help of therapy to establish healthier boundaries and communication patterns.