Kohimises

Kohimises is a term that refers to the act of courting or wooing in certain traditional Estonian contexts. It describes the process by which a man would attempt to win the affection of a woman, often involving a series of social interactions and demonstrations of suitability. This could include visiting the woman's home, engaging in conversation, and participating in communal activities.

The courtship rituals associated with kohimises were typically conducted with the knowledge and often the approval of both families. It was not solely an individual pursuit but a social undertaking that could lead to a formal engagement and eventual marriage. Gifts, songs, and the performance of certain tasks might be part of the kohimises process, all aimed at impressing the woman and her family.

While the specific customs varied across different regions and time periods within Estonia, the underlying principle of kohimises was about establishing a relationship with the intention of marriage. It emphasized respect, social etiquette, and the building of trust between prospective partners and their families. The term is less commonly used in contemporary Estonian society, as modern courtship practices have evolved significantly.