idealiseringdevaluering

Idealiseringdevaluering is a psychological term describing a pattern of behavior and perception characterized by an extreme swing between placing someone or something on a pedestal and then completely denigrating them. This process often occurs in interpersonal relationships, particularly in the early stages of romantic involvement or in situations involving intense emotional attachment.

Initially, the subject of idealization is perceived as perfect, possessing all desirable qualities without any flaws. This phase is marked by intense positive feelings, admiration, and a sense of euphoria. The individual may overlook or rationalize any minor imperfections, seeing them as insignificant in the face of overwhelming positive attributes.

Following this period of idealization, a shift occurs, leading to devaluation. This transition is often triggered by a perceived disappointment, a minor imperfection coming to light, or a realization that the idealized image does not align with reality. During devaluation, the previously admired person or object is now seen as deeply flawed, contemptible, or even malicious. All positive qualities are forgotten or dismissed, and negative aspects are amplified. This can lead to anger, disappointment, and a complete reversal of feelings.

The cycle of idealization and devaluation can be repetitive and is often associated with certain personality disorders, such as borderline personality disorder, where it serves as a defense mechanism to manage intense emotions and a fear of abandonment. It reflects a black-and-white thinking style, struggling with the nuances and complexities of human relationships and the inherent imperfections of individuals. This pattern can be detrimental to maintaining stable and healthy relationships, as it creates an emotional roller coaster for both the individual experiencing it and those around them.