Tavlama

Tavlama is a Turkish term used in informal speech to describe the act of pursuing someone romantically or sexually with the aim of winning their interest or consent. The word is widely used in everyday conversation and popular culture to refer to attempts at flirting or courting, often implying a deliberate, tactical approach to charm or persuade a potential partner.

In practice, tavlama can involve a variety of social tactics, such as initiating contact, making compliments, using humor, showing interest, and maintaining attention over time. It may occur in person or online, including through social media or dating apps. While tavlama can describe consensual flirting and dating, it can also carry connotations of manipulation or coercion when tactics pressure the other person or undermine their autonomy.

Cultural notes: The expression “kız tavlama” or “tavlamaya çalışmak” is commonly heard in Turkish media and casual speech to describe efforts to charm someone of a different gender. The concept is not limited to a single gender dynamic, but traditional depictions in popular culture frequently center on male suitors.

Ethical considerations: As with broader dating and flirting practices, consent, respect, and mutual interest are central. When tactics become deceitful, coercive, or disrespectful, tavlama is viewed negatively and can be considered inappropriate or harmful.

See also: flirting, dating, pickup artistry, interpersonal communication.