Gottmanmenetelmää

Gottmanmenetelmää is a couples therapy approach developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. It is based on extensive research into marital stability and happiness, conducted over several decades. The core of the Gottman Method lies in identifying and understanding the patterns of interaction that characterize successful and unsuccessful relationships. The therapy aims to help couples build stronger connections by fostering friendship, constructively managing conflict, and creating shared meaning in their relationship.

Key components of the Gottman Method include focusing on the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse," which are four destructive communication patterns: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Therapists help couples recognize these patterns in their interactions and replace them with healthier ways of communicating, such as using gentle start-ups, taking responsibility, and practicing empathy. The Gottman Method also emphasizes the importance of building a strong "love map," understanding each other's inner worlds, and nurturing fondness and admiration for one another. Couples learn practical tools and techniques to improve their daily interactions, manage disagreements, and deepen their emotional connection. The goal is to create a stable and loving relationship that can withstand the challenges of life.