handfastings

A handfasting is a traditional ceremony that predates modern marriage vows in some cultures, often associated with Pagan and Wiccan traditions. It involves the couple clasping hands, often with a cord or ribbon binding them together, symbolizing their union. The duration of the handfasting could be for a year and a day, a specific period, or for life, depending on the intentions of the couple and the specific tradition being followed.

Historically, handfastings were a form of betrothal or a temporary marriage agreement, particularly in Scotland and parts of England. These arrangements could be legally binding for a set time, after which the couple could choose to formalize their union or part ways. In more modern interpretations, handfastings are often chosen as a spiritual or symbolic commitment ceremony, celebrated by those who wish to honor their connection in a way that aligns with their beliefs, regardless of legal marriage.

The ceremony itself can vary widely. It may include the exchange of vows, the lighting of candles, the sharing of a drink, or other symbolic actions. The physical act of binding the hands is central, representing the joining of two lives. While often associated with Neopaganism, handfastings are also adopted by couples from various backgrounds seeking a personalized and meaningful way to declare their commitment to one another.