afterfeelings

Afterfeelings, also known as post-coital tristesse or post-coital dysphoria, refers to a phenomenon where individuals experience feelings of sadness, anxiety, or irritability after engaging in sexual activity, even if the sex itself was consensual and enjoyable. This experience is not uncommon and can affect people of all genders and sexual orientations.

The exact causes of afterfeelings are not fully understood, but several theories exist. Hormonal changes following orgasm, such as a drop in oxytocin and prolactin levels, may play a role. Psychological factors, including past negative sexual experiences, relationship issues, or underlying mental health conditions like depression or anxiety, can also contribute. Societal pressures or expectations surrounding sex can also be a factor.

The experience of afterfeelings can vary in intensity and duration. Some individuals may feel a fleeting sense of melancholy, while others might experience more profound sadness or even weep uncontrollably. These feelings typically resolve on their own within a few hours or days.

While afterfeelings can be distressing, understanding that they are a recognized phenomenon can be helpful. If these feelings are persistent, severe, or causing significant distress, seeking support from a healthcare professional or therapist is recommended. They can help explore potential underlying causes and develop coping strategies. Open communication with a partner about these experiences can also be beneficial in fostering understanding and support.