Themself

Themself is a reflexive pronoun used with the singular they to refer back to a single person whose gender is unknown or nonbinary. It is formed to parallel other reflexive forms such as himself, herself, and themselves, using they as the antecedent.

Usage notes: In most contexts, “themselves” remains the common reflexive form for singular they: They bought themselves a gift. However, “themself” is increasingly used in inclusive writing and by some speakers as a singular reflexive pronoun: They bought themself a gift. Style guides differ in guidance, with some accepting themself and others preferring themselves. Reader familiarity and registration can influence which form is chosen.

History and variation: The singular they has a long history in English. The traditional reflexive form for both plural and singular, when using singular they, has been themselves. The form themself has appeared in English for centuries but has gained noticeable popularity in modern usage, especially in contexts that prioritize gender-neutral language. Choices between themself and themselves can reflect audience expectations, regional practice, and personal or institutional preference.

Usage considerations: For formal or traditional contexts, many editors still default to themselves for singular they, while others accept themself in contemporary, inclusive writing. When in doubt, consult the relevant style guide or consider the expectations of the intended audience.

See also: pronouns, gender-neutral language.