kaastunde

Kaastunde is a term in Estonian that denotes the feeling of sympathy for someone who has suffered a misfortune or loss, as well as the social acts of expressing that sympathy. The word combines kaas (together) and tunne (feeling), conveying the sense of feeling with another person during hardship. In usage, kaastunde refers both to the inner experience of shared sorrow and to outward expressions of support.

In everyday life, kaastunde is expressed through condolences messages, cards, flowers, and visits; at funerals people may speak comforting words, offer practical help, or simply stay with the grieving person. Formal settings use written condolences, condolence letters, or messages delivered by relatives, friends, or colleagues. The practice varies depending on relationship closeness, the individual's preferences, and cultural or religious context; in modern Estonia it is common to send a short message of condolence within a day or two after hearing the news, and to attend the funeral if possible.

Historically, like many cultures, kaastunde serves to reinforce social bonds and provide emotional support during bereavement. The concept also encompasses empathy for others' suffering beyond death, applying during illnesses and personal hardships.