Dommes

Domme is a term used in BDSM to describe a woman who assumes the dominant role in a consensual power exchange. A domme may guide a scene or a lasting dynamic, setting rules, goals, and control over a submissive partner or partners. Dominance can involve psychological aspects, ritualized behavior, and physical activities, negotiated to fit participants’ limits.

Dommes can operate in various contexts. Some are professional dominatrices who offer paid sessions in a dungeon or studio, while others are private individuals who practice domination within personal relationships or online communities. Scenes or relationships are typically defined by negotiated limits, safewords, and clear consent.

Consent, communication, and safety are central. Negotiation covers hard and soft limits, boundaries, and risk awareness. Safewords, aftercare, and ongoing consent are standard components of ethical practice.

Terminology and scope. The term "domme" is gendered for female-identified dominants; many people use "dominant" as a neutral term. The domme role spans a range from light, ritualized power exchange to more intense forms of domination, and can occur in both long-term relationships and casual encounters.

Cultural context. Dommes are part of BDSM subcultures and may appear in media and online communities. Discussions about dommes often address consent, power dynamics, and ethics, aiming to counter stereotypes and promote safety for those who engage in domination.